14 Parent Tips

 Openly   show your love, support and encouragement so they are better able to stand up to pressure.  A child who feels loved and successful at home is less likely to fall into sexual pressure.
     
Share   some of the struggles, mistakes, and lessons you’ve learned about sex and relationships.
     
Listen   , listen, listen, to your kids and ask their opinions.  Be calm, don’t over react.
     
Talk   through different “what would you do if” scenarios.
     
Think   through your own values on marriage, commitment, dating, extra marital sex, etc. and clearly give direction to your kids. 
     
Get   them to talk about what they want a date, a spouse, and future family to be like.
     
Supervise   their music, TV,  texting, magazines, videos and direct them to media that supports your values.
     
Comment   on news stories, TV shows, what’s happening at school or work.  Don’t wait for the “big talks” – teach in one-liners.  Mention consequences of early pregnancy, abortion, painful break-ups, disease, etc.
     
Know   where your kids are, especially after school.
     
Model   healthy behavior.
     
Hang   out with your kids and their friends.
     
Educate   yourself on teens, puberty, pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, etc.  Contact your local health department, go to the library, Internet, and other agencies - most information is free.
     
Help   your child to set dating guidelines, such as type of dating, single or groups, who to date, physical contact, curfew, religious boundaries, if any and age to date. (Research shows that when girls start dating at age 12, 91% have sex before high school graduation but when dating starts at age 16, 20% have sex in high school).
     
Give   a symbol of purity (key ring, necklace, ring) to remind them of their decision to wait until marriage for sex.